As the Christmas season begins, and lights twinkle in celebration of hope and joy, I extend to you a royal invitation to step into a world of beauty and wonder.
Imagine a royal castle where candlelight dances across crystal chandeliers, casting a golden glow over a room alive with elegance—a place where every detail whispers of royalty and divine purpose.
The air is fragrant with the scent of imported roses, mingling with the warm spices of cinnamon and nutmeg, drawing you to pause and embrace the beauty of the season. Women draped in silk and satin glide across polished floors, their movements speaking of grace and confidence. There is a sense of anticipation in the room, a quiet hum that stirs every heart, calling each soul to something greater.
This is more than a festive celebration—it is an invitation. The King of Kings is calling you to step into the fullness of your divine beauty, to reclaim the crown that has always been yours, and to cast aside the false narratives that have dimmed your light. You were created for such a time as this...
At the top of the grand staircase, she pauses—a moment suspended in time. Her emerald gown cascades like liquid moonlight, each movement a symphony of elegance. As she begins her descent, the entire ballroom falls silent. Every eye is drawn to her, not because of perfection, but because of presence.
This is the power of true beauty. It makes you stop, look and tune into something deep within.
She isn't the most conventionally beautiful woman in the room. Her beauty is something more—an essence that transcends physical appearance. It's the way she carries herself. The gentle confidence in her smile. The light that seems to emanate from within. As she moves, heads turn. Not out of jealousy, but out of inspiration. People feel something in her presence—a spark of possibility, a whisper of hope. Around her, the castle itself seems to breathe with beauty: intricate tapestries that tell stories of generations past, gilded mirrors reflecting layers of sophistication, and massive bouquets of white roses that seem to float like clouds against the rich burgundy walls.
But this beauty—this extraordinary, soul-stirring elegance—is merely a whisper of something far more profound.
Long before these castle walls were erected, before royal lineages and elaborate balls, there was a Garden. Not just any garden, but the Garden of Eden—the original masterpiece of beauty, crafted by the ultimate Artist. Here, in this place of perfection, God's creative genius was about to unveil His most spectacular design.
Have you ever noticed this ideation of creation: God formed Adam outside the garden, sculpting him from ordinary dust. But Eve? She was different. Crafted inside the luxurious garden, drawn from a living being—a masterpiece within a masterpiece. She was created from Adam, for Adam. She wasn't an afterthought, a side kick to the superhero or a simple companion. She was the crowning glory of all of creation, the final brushstroke designed to take Adam's breath away, and so are you!
The Helpmate: A Divine Partnership
Let me address a little bit about the purpose of womanhood. The term "helpmate" carries a depth far beyond its surface meaning. In Hebrew, "ezer kenegdo" describes a role of immense strength and purpose—the same term used to describe God as a helper, protector, and deliverer.
It is a warrior term; women are strong and it is also a savior term; women are healers and protectors. As a woman, you were created not for subservience, but for powerful partnership in this world. You are created to call out and inspire the potential in a man but also mankind, to draw humanity into a safe and nurturing space where healing can take place. You are the soft, inviting refuge in a harsh and unforgiving world, where the armor of life can be set aside and the souls of those under your care can dance with delight.
The Meaning of Ezer:
In Hebrew, ezer means "helper," but not in a subordinate or trivial sense. The term is used 21 times in the Old Testament, with most occurrences referring to God as Israel's helper in times of dire need (e.g., Psalm 33:20, "Our soul waits for the Lord; He is our help and shield").
Ezer conveys the idea of a life-saving helper, one who provides critical aid and strength, often in the context of warfare or survival. It emphasizes strength and partnership, not inferiority.
The Meaning of Kenegdo:
Kenegdo combines "ke-" (like/as) and "neged" (opposite or corresponding to). It means "corresponding to," "equal to," or "a counterpart to." This emphasizes equality and complementarity rather than hierarchy.
Together as Ezer Kenegdo:
When paired, ezer kenegdo describes a partner who is both strong and equal—a protector, ally, and counterpart. The role is not passive but active and dynamic, highlighting the woman’s God-given purpose in complementing and strengthening her partner.
Women are not merely helpers in a subordinate sense; they are co-laborers, protectors, and life-givers. Women are uniquely designed to complement, counterbalance, and commend the men in their lives and to care for her kingdom. Have you considered women have been designed to be seen?
To complement means to support, providing the strength and partnership needed for mutual growth. To counterbalance is to bring perspective and equilibrium, offering a different but equally valuable view of life’s challenges and opportunities. To commend is to uplift and honor, embodying beauty in a way that inspires and elevates those around us.
If we fail to honor and embrace our own beauty, how can we effectively honor and elevate others? Beauty is not merely aesthetic; it is a profound expression of femininity that carries psychological and relational power.
Research suggests that men are drawn to women who elevate them, both in confidence and status. Men with supportive, beautiful partners are perceived as more successful and respected. This reveals a divine design—beauty and femininity are meant to bring life, strength, and honor into relationships, reflecting God’s glory in the process.
When women step into this purpose with confidence, they wield beauty as a powerful force for healing, inspiration, and transformation. It’s not about vanity but about living out the fullness of our God-given design to support, balance, and honor those around us.
Beauty, in all its forms, is a powerful force. It heals, nurtures, delights, inspires, and uplifts. It is the antidote to a dark and dreary world, the spark that brings hope and makes hearts come alive. You carry this gift within you—a gift designed not only to illuminate the lives of those around you but also to reflect God’s divine glory.
Yet, too often, we fail to wield this weapon of beauty to its fullest capacity. I believe it is time to reclaim it and step boldly into the role we were created for: to bring light, joy, and life into the world through the unique beauty God has placed within us.
The Stolen Beauty
Somewhere along our journey, beauty has been under relentless attack. The enemy understands the profound power of beauty and has sought to distort it in numerous ways:
Turning beauty into a source of insecurity
Breeding competition and jealousy among women
Perverting the gift into a tool of manipulation
Creating false standards that lead to endless comparison
Reducing it to seduction and objectification
We've swung between two destructive extremes: complete self-neglect and desperate attention-seeking. Some of us hide, like Snow White in her forest, believing we're unworthy. Others, like manipulative characters in fairy tales, use beauty as a weapon of control and seduction.
In Scripture, Satan is depicted as a being of unparalleled beauty and wisdom among the angels. Ezekiel 28:12-17 describes him as adorned with every precious stone and crafted with perfect skill, reflecting his exalted role in God’s creation. However, his pride in his own beauty and splendor led to his rebellion and fall. This rebellion corrupted his purpose, and he became the adversary, twisting the very gifts God had given him.
It’s important to note that Satan cannot create; he can only pervert what God has designed. His schemes are often subtle, carrying just enough truth to make his lies convincing. This is evident in his distortion of beauty. Instead of the healing, inspiring, and God-reflecting force it was meant to be, he manipulates it into something divisive—fueling insecurity, jealousy, and objectification. This perversion aligns with his mission to steal, kill, and destroy (John 10:10), turning beauty from a reflection of God’s glory into a source of harm and division.
We have fallen for this distortion, and it’s time to reclaim the crown he has attempted to steal from us. Beauty, in its true form, is powerful—it heals, inspires, and uplifts, drawing people closer to God. By embracing the divine purpose of beauty, we counter the enemy’s lies and use it as a weapon of light, bringing hope, joy, and restoration to a world deeply in need. This is a call to steward beauty with intention and humility, wielding it as God intended: to reflect His glory and bless those around us.
It is my heart to remind us this Christmas season, as we focus on wrapping presents in paper and bows, that we are in fact the wrapping of the greatest gift of all—Jesus. He is living inside of us through the power of the Holy Spirit. Let’s reclaim the identity of beauty and wear the crowns that are rightfully ours as queens of God’s royal kingdom, pointing others to the artist of beauty.
When we do not claim what is rightfully ours, we fall into the easy mistake of shifting our focus inward, whether through pride or insecurity. When we focus on ourselves, we lose sight of the true source of beauty. Satan has masterfully distorted beauty, causing us to either seek attention for our outward appearance out of pride or shrink away from it due to insecurity—both of which draw attention away from God’s design for us.
When we seek to make ourselves the center of attention, driven by pride, our beauty becomes fleshly, rooted in a desire for admiration that can never satisfy. Conversely, when we shrink back in insecurity, trying to hide our beauty, we still make it about ourselves. The insecurity itself becomes noticeable, drawing attention not to God’s beauty in us, but to our fear and doubt. It’s so subtle and sneaky that we end up drawing attention to the demonic tools the enemy uses, simply by not fully embracing the true beauty that we were created to reflect.
This misalignment of our hearts and motives steals the glory that was meant to point others to God. But what if beauty was always meant to be something different? Something healing. Something powerful. Something that brings us closer to God and His eternal purposes. When we reclaim our true identity as women—created in His image, reflecting His beauty—we restore the original purpose of beauty: to heal, to inspire, and to trasnform. This is the beauty that was meant to be shared, and it is time to walk in it again.
The Purpose of Beauty: More Than Appearance
Beauty was never just about being the most attractive person in the room. It was never meant to be a weapon of comparison or a source of insecurity. Beauty is a divine assignment—a powerful, transformative energy designed to do something extraordinary. Each assignment is unique and tailored just for you; like Eve was tailored specifically just for Adam.
Imagine beauty as a language without words. It speaks directly to the human heart. When you embrace your unique beauty:
You open doors for others
You create safe spaces for healing
You restore wounded spirits
You awaken potential in those around you
You delight and inspire
Your beauty has the power to:
Comfort the broken
Inspire the discouraged
Elevate the overlooked
Bring hope to the hopeless
God doesn't create mistakes. He crafted you with intentional, breathtaking detail. Your beauty isn't about fitting into a societal mold—it's about being the most authentic version of yourself. The version that makes people feel seen, valued, and believed in.
Your Beauty, Your Story
Your beauty is not defined by societal standards or filtered Instagram posts. It's a multi-dimensional gift.
Ask yourself:
What curses have been spoken over your beauty?
Are you hiding, like Rapunzel in her tower?
Do you feel unworthy, like Cinderella before her transformation?
Are you numb to your own potential, like Sleeping Beauty waiting to be awakened?
My own journey with beauty has been one of discovering and embracing the version of myself that God uniquely designed. I often tell my clients to be the best version of themselves, not a distorted reflection of someone else’s standard. There’s a responsibility and wisdom in submitting to the beauty God has designed specifically for you. It’s not about coveting another’s look or feeling like we need to change ourselves to fit someone else’s mold. I’ve come to realize that my specific look, my features, and my unique essence were created with a purpose. And while it’s okay to enhance or repair things that may need attention, I believe we must resist the pressure to be “cosmetically fake.” True elegance comes from being authentic, and authenticity is what reflects God’s design.
It’s disheartening to see the dramatic changes in faces on social media, where one moment a woman’s appearance can shift from a harsh, almost monstrous figure to a soft, flawless version of herself. Why should we strive for such inauthenticity? Deep down, we know who we are. We know what’s written on our hearts. And it takes spiritual discipline to accept the beauty God has given us and own it, rather than trying to alter it or control it, as Eve did with the forbidden fruit.
I also want to encourage women to embrace the transformative nature of womanhood. We are constantly changing—every month hormonally, with our bodies adapting to new life stages: from girl- to wife- to mother -to sage. Each of these stages ushers in a new version of beauty. Isn't it incredible that God didn’t leave beauty stagnant? It shifts and evolves, month by month, season by season, decade by decade. We should embrace these transitions and allow ourselves to evolve with grace and acceptance. At the same time, we must be careful not to fall into complacency. For example, motherhood is a season where no one has the energy to hit the gym when they’re up all night with a newborn and nursing all day. Give yourself grace in such seasons. But don’t let that break last for years. The baby season eventually passes, and when it does, give yourself permission to return to who you are. Maybe she’s a new version of you, but don’t forget to prioritize yourself once again. Embrace your ever-evolving beauty, knowing it’s exactly what God designed for this moment.
For some women, beauty has been brutally attacked, whether through molestation, rape, or other traumatic experiences. It’s important to acknowledge that beauty is something the enemy seeks to distort and destroy, and for many, it’s been taken in ways that feel beyond repair. But I want to speak directly to those women: your beauty is not lost, and it cannot be stolen. Though your story may have been marred by pain, shame, or violation, the true beauty within you remains, waiting to be reclaimed. This is a call to go through the process of healing—an intentional journey of rediscovering and rewriting your beauty story. No one, not even the enemy or the wounds of your past, has the right to define you. Only God, your Creator, can write your story. You are still His masterpiece, fearfully and wonderfully made.
A healthy version of beauty begins with reconciling with your own beauty story. Every woman has moments in her life when beauty was stolen, attacked, or cursed—whether through words, experiences, or even the standards of the world. These moments can deeply shape how we view ourselves, but they don’t define us. This is a call to break down those moments and identify where the enemy has tried to rob you of your true beauty. What has happened as a result of these wounds? And how can you rewrite your story, choosing to claim the truth of who you are, rather than holding onto what came against you?
It's time to stop letting others define who you are or what you’re worth. Your beauty story is yours to write, with God as the author. Let go of the lies, the hurt, and the labels, and receive the truth of who you are in Him.
Reclaiming Your Crown: Practical Steps
Reclaiming your beauty is an intentional journey. Here are key ways to step into your divine design:
Health and Wellness:
Care for your body as a temple of the Holy Spirit
Nourish yourself with wholesome food
Prioritize movement and rest
Give yourselve permission to put yourself first so you can care for others
Soul Nurturing:
Fill your heart with God's Word
Surround yourself with a supportive spiritual community
Let divine love pour into you so you can overflow onto others
Mental Renewal:
Take every thought captive
Reject lies about your worth
Replace negative self-talk with God's truth
Choose life-giving thoughts
Boldly Wearing Your Crown:
Stop hiding in the shadows
Reject false humility
Embrace your God-given beauty
Shine your light without apology
The Invitation
This is your invitation to reclaim your beauty—not as a competitive weapon, but as a divine instrument of receiving the honor of wearing the gift of beauty.
Remember beauty is about:
Nurturing
Inspiring
Healing
Transforming
Reflecting divine love
Drawing attention to the original artist
It's about wearing your crown—not just a literal tiara, but the spiritual authority you've been given. It's about understanding that you were created to bring light into dark spaces, to be a living, breathing work of art that causes people to stop, stare and be impacted. Your beauty is created to inspire, elevate, nurture, heal and restore.
It is time to see beauty not as something you possess, but as something you embody. A masterpiece. A gift. This Christmas season, remember: You are a gift. Uniquely crafted. Divinely inspired. Breathtakingly beautiful.
Are you ready to step into being THE BEAUTY in your story?
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